Tuesday, August 21, 2012

I'M BACK

No, I didn't fall off the face of the earth.  But my Mac completely wiped it's own hard-drive (the "geniuses" at the Apple Store had never seen anything like it), so I lost everything, including the bookmark that reminded me to continually post on here.  I'll just cover the important things for now and then I'll update more frequently now that I've re-discovered my blog.

I got a new job as a legal assistant at a bankruptcy law office; finally I'm in a field that has something to do with my degree.  There was a point where I never thought I would make it here, and I have Craigslist to thank for that (if you can believe it).  I've only been here a few weeks, but I love it.  Every case is unique, with totally different terms, lawsuits, and other issues, so I'm literally never bored.  When I'm loading cases, I can turn on the 60's, 70's, & 80's playlist on Pandora (I strongly recommend it) and be focused and relaxed at the same time.  It's a very busy environment, but there's a consistency that I've been yearning for in a job that I've finally found.  Every day I'm learning something new, and I feel like there's still so much more.

I had my bachelorette party a few weekends ago and it was great.  I was really impressed with what my bridesmaids came up with and it was so amazing to see them all at once; they don't hang in the same crowd, and it's hard for me to even see them one on one very often because of our conflicting work schedules, so I was really touched that they all got together and planned that night for me.  I'm not the kind of person that is the center of attention very often, but they really made me feel like I was a celebrity.  I'm so grateful for my friends.

I was told that the last month of wedding planning is the most stressful, and I should've taken that more seriously.  I've never been stressed to the point of having full-on nightmares until recently, and I know it's all wedding-related.  We had to kick someone out of our wedding party, and it was definitely not something we thought would happen, so I feel really conflicted about it.  There are so many underlying issues with the situation that I don't even know where to begin with the person involved.  Side issue: one of the other stressful parts is that so many people are telling me I won't remember my wedding.  I mean, what?  How can I not remember my own wedding?  I don't plan on getting black-out drunk, and I understand if I don't remember each minute, but how could I not remember walking down the aisle, the song of our first dance, or what kind of food we ate?  Can I at least please remember what I looked like or how I felt?  There are quite a few people I've spoken with that literally remember nothing about their own wedding: they have no idea who was there, what cake they had, what the music was like, or anything.  That just blows my mind.  Is that really what happens when we get older?  We just forget things, even if it's one of the more important days of our lives?  I hope not.  I would be pissed if I put so much effort into tedious details like centerpieces and seating charts just to not remember anything at all.


I've been so consumed with working my new job and wedding planning that I've had no time to keep up with the election, which is very unlike me.  Hopefully once the wedding is over I can get back in the loop.  I'm so grateful to my bridesmaids for being so patient and understanding with me over the past few weeks, and I should probably apologize to them in advance for how I might be over the next few weeks, haha.  We chose the readings for our ceremony tonight, so I will leave my favorite one here:



THE ART OF MARRIAGE by Wilferd A. Peterson

The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating
gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.

It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.